When was the last time you gave yourself an 'energy audit'? That is, when was the last time that you really looked at where your energy is being spent on a daily, weekly, or monthly basis.
As human beings with a whole lot of interesting unconscious behaviors, we often find ourselves in a position where we are draining our energy reserves on people and things that are not giving us anything in return.
The toxic relationship where only one partner carries the weight of the relationship, the family member who uses you as a free psychologist to dump their problems on without much regard, the friend who has no problem asking you for favors but would never offer to help in return, the exhausting job that doesn't pay too well but drains the life from you, the list of 'non-reciprocating' energy drainers goes on and on.
Especially if you are an emotionally strong, empathic person who is more than willing to bear the energetic/emotional load for friends and family.
Holding the Weight of The World On Your Shoulders?
It is an admirable and sweet thing to do, to try and carry a troubled relationship, friendship, or a family member on your shoulders -- but over time the weight will begin to wear you down, because in order for them to truly change their situation they must first decide to change themselves; and that decision is even more challenging to arrive to when you are willing to carry their burdens for them.
That is why it's essential to start analyzing the ways in which you are giving away your most vital resource, how its affecting you, how it's affecting your life plans, and start taking back your energetic power from those who are leeching up so much of your energy that you might as well give them a straw (there's a reason that toxic energy drainers are often called 'energy vampires').
There Are Plenty of People Who Will Appreciate & Reciprocate Your Energy
And the good news is that there are many out there that will appreciate and reciprocate the energy that you put into the relationship (business, friendship, romantic, or whatever it is you are seeking). Sometimes we are so surrounded by enery drainers that we forget that we are capable of having anything else.
There are so many terrific people out there that are searching for others with likeminds.
And the first step to finding them is is accepting that you are worthy of it, and understanding that it is not your role in life to be a constant energy source for everyone else to feed off of. Especially not those who have no interest in changing their ways and expanding their own energetic resources and life development.